{"id":274,"date":"2020-06-20T19:22:35","date_gmt":"2020-06-20T19:22:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.stsm.org\/?page_id=274"},"modified":"2020-06-20T19:22:36","modified_gmt":"2020-06-20T19:22:36","slug":"relationships","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/arf.stsm.org\/?page_id=274","title":{"rendered":"Relationships"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Relationships<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"has-text-color wp-block-heading\" style=\"color:#0071a1\">Healthy and Unhealthy Relationships<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Every relationship, even friendships and dating relationships, can be classified as either healthy or unhealthy. In healthy relationships, partners support and love each other while still remaining independent. They adopt open, assertive communication and respect consent. Unhealthy relationships are unequal, disrespectful, and potentially abusive. They may escalate into domestic abuse or intimate partner violence and are often characterized by uneven or failing communication and a disregard for consent and boundaries.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"bg-margin-for-link\"><input type='hidden' bg_collapse_expand='69fe117243cf93066497593' value='69fe117243cf93066497593'><input type='hidden' id='bg-show-more-text-69fe117243cf93066497593' value='Healthy Relationship Characteristics'><input type='hidden' id='bg-show-less-text-69fe117243cf93066497593' value='Healthy Relationship Characteristics'><a id='bg-showmore-action-69fe117243cf93066497593' class='bg-showmore-plg-link bg-arrow '  style=\" color:#c3d500;;\" href='#'>Healthy Relationship Characteristics<\/a><div id='bg-showmore-hidden-69fe117243cf93066497593' ><br \/>\nA healthy relationship should bring more happiness than stress into your life. Every relationship will have stress at times, but you want to prevent prolonged mental stress on either member of the relationship.<\/p>\n<p>While in a healthy relationship you:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Take care of yourself and have good self-esteem independent of your relationship<\/li>\n<li>Maintain and respect each other\u2019s individuality<\/li>\n<li>Maintain relationships with friends and family<\/li>\n<li>Have activities apart from one another<\/li>\n<li>Are able to express yourselves to one another without fear of consequences<\/li>\n<li>Are able to feel secure and comfortable<\/li>\n<li>Allow and encourage other relationships<\/li>\n<li>Take interest in one another\u2019s activities<\/li>\n<li>Do not worry about violence in the relationship<\/li>\n<li>Have the option of privacy<\/li>\n<li>Have respect for sexual boundaries<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><\/div><\/div>\n\n\n<div class=\"bg-margin-for-link\"><input type='hidden' bg_collapse_expand='69fe117243e050033418045' value='69fe117243e050033418045'><input type='hidden' id='bg-show-more-text-69fe117243e050033418045' value='Unhealthy Relationship Characteristics'><input type='hidden' id='bg-show-less-text-69fe117243e050033418045' value='Unhealthy Relationship Characteristics'><a id='bg-showmore-action-69fe117243e050033418045' class='bg-showmore-plg-link bg-arrow '  style=\" color:#c3d500;;\" href='#'>Unhealthy Relationship Characteristics<\/a><div id='bg-showmore-hidden-69fe117243e050033418045' ><br \/>\nAt times all relationships will have some of the characteristics listed below. However, unhealthy relationships will exhibit these characteristics more frequently and cause you stress and pressure that is hard to avoid. This tension is unhealthy for both members of the relationship and may lead to problems in other areas of your life.<\/p>\n<p>While in an unhealthy relationship you:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Feel pressure to change who you are for the other person<\/li>\n<li>Feel worried when you disagree with the other person<\/li>\n<li>Feel pressure to quit activities you usually\/used to enjoy<\/li>\n<li>Pressure the other person into agreeing with you or changing to suit you better<\/li>\n<li>Notice one of you has to justify your actions (e.g., where you go, who you see)<\/li>\n<li>Notice one partner feels obligated to have sex or has been forced<\/li>\n<li>Have a lack of privacy, and may be forced to share everything with the other person<\/li>\n<li>Experience yelling or physical violence during an argument<\/li>\n<li>Notice your partner attempts to controls how you dress and criticizes your behaviors<\/li>\n<li>Have no common friends, or have a lack of respect for each others\u2019 friends and family<\/li>\n<li>Notice an unequal control of resources (e.g., food, money, home, car, etc.)<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"has-text-color wp-block-heading\" style=\"color:#0071a1\">Intimate Partner Violence<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Dating and domestic violence, often referred collectively along with other forms of violence as intimate partner violence (IPV), is a pattern of physical, emotional, verbal, and\/or sexual violence perpetrated by one partner in a romantic relationship toward the other partner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The abuse does not go away. In fact, intimate partner violence gets worse as the relationship continues. There may not be violence present at all times; but there is a distinct pattern of tension, escalation, and violence, which may or may not be followed by a period of good times. Eventually, however, the violence will surface back again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>If you suspect someone you know is suffering from intimate partner violence, there are simple ways to step in and help a friend.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Don\u2019t be afraid to let him or her know that you are concerned for their safety.<\/strong>&nbsp;Help your friend or family member recognize the abuse. Tell him or her you see what is going on and that you want to help. Help them recognize that what is happening is not \u201cnormal\u201d and that they deserve a healthy, non-violent relationship.<\/li><li><strong>Acknowledge that he or she is in a very difficult and scary situation.<\/strong>&nbsp;Let your friend or family member know that the abuse is not their fault. Reassure him or her that they are not alone and that there is help and support out there.<\/li><li><strong>Be supportive.<\/strong>&nbsp;Listen to your friend or family member. Remember that it may be difficult for him or her to talk about the abuse. Let him or her know that you are available to help whenever they may need it. What they need most is someone who will believe and listen to them.<\/li><li><strong>Be non-judgmental.<\/strong>&nbsp;Respect your friend or family member\u2019s decisions. There are many reasons why victims stay in abusive relationships. He or she may leave and return to the relationship many times. Do not criticize his or her decisions or try to guilt them. He or she will need your support even more during those times.<\/li><li><strong>If he or she ends the relationship, continue to be supportive of them.<\/strong>&nbsp;Even though the relationship was abusive, your friend or family member may still feel sad and lonely once it is over. He or she will need time to mourn the loss of the relationship and will especially need your support at that time.<\/li><li><strong>Encourage him or her to talk to people who can provide help and guidance.<\/strong>&nbsp;Find a local domestic violence agency that provides counseling or support groups. Offer to go with him or her to talk to family and friends. If he or she has to go to the police, court or a lawyer, offer to go along for moral support.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Remember that you cannot \u201crescue\u201d him or her.&nbsp;Although it is difficult to see someone you care about get hurt, ultimately the person getting hurt has to be the one to decide that they want to do something.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>If you\u2019ve experienced dating violence or sexual assault, you\u2019re not alone. To speak with someone who is trained to help, call Sexual Trauma Services Crisis Hotline at (803) 771-7273.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Relationships Healthy and Unhealthy Relationships Every relationship, even friendships and dating relationships, can be classified as either healthy or unhealthy. In healthy relationships, partners support and love each other while still remaining independent. They adopt open, assertive communication and respect consent. Unhealthy relationships are unequal, disrespectful, and potentially abusive. They may escalate into domestic abuse &#8230; <a title=\"Relationships\" class=\"read-more\" href=\"https:\/\/arf.stsm.org\/?page_id=274\" aria-label=\"More on Relationships\">Read more<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"footnotes":""},"class_list":["post-274","page","type-page","status-publish"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/arf.stsm.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/pages\/274","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/arf.stsm.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/arf.stsm.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arf.stsm.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arf.stsm.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=274"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/arf.stsm.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/pages\/274\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":276,"href":"https:\/\/arf.stsm.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/pages\/274\/revisions\/276"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/arf.stsm.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=274"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}